Selvaraaju’s Pensive

Facebook Vs Real look October 14, 2010

This blog compares how Social networking changed the ways we express love and  it recommends few things to have a real look.

Every login you make in Facebook, makes Mark Zuckerbery richer.  Facebook has got over 500 million user and average time spent by user is approx 30 min. Everyday almost 85% of its users updates their status and they spend atleast 20minutes in playing Games.  All the statistics makes developers to think of ways to leverage human hours.

Social networking helps to stay in touch with your friends, relatives and share photos, videos and it is meticulously designed to keep its users in “an illusion of joy”. If you look back 10 years before, if boy likes a girl, he usually asks her out.  If the girl likes the boy and they date and start to know each other by spending their time together. Facebook changed this drastically.  Now boys  stalk on other’s profiles to know what the girl likes and fake things so that he can date her. Most of the things that I girl should share with a boy on a first date is already known to the boy ( It is called “background check”) ( Guys,..It is not taboo to say “Get a 411 on that girl”).

Some people argue that it is good to know girl’s profile before going on first date.  According to me, it spoils the thrill and excitement. On a first date, every word that the girl says should make the boy float  in air.  Sometimes guys fake things accordingly to girl’s profile so that girl might get an illusion that he is a perfect match for her.

Some people say it is good to check people’s relationship status before asking her out. This may avoid embarrasment if you ask her out mistakenly while she already has a boy friend.  Yae..it is true but why dont guys ask a girl whether she has a boyfriend or not before trying their luck ?!  Many of my aussie friends do “digital stalking” ..they check on others profile, check others photos ! When people stalk on others, they try to satisfy something which they have not accomplished or which they cannot do it! It is “anxiety”.  I prefer face to face meetings because the conversation is live.  In face to face meetings emotions are seen and they are appreciated. Adding a hilarious comments on others  Facebook photo will make your friends laugh but YOU can’t experience their smiles and FEEL it.

Keeping in touch with your friends in this fast moving world is hard but we have to spend time with them “in person”.  Prefer a 5min catch up Coffee rather than commenting on their “Facebook wall”.  Dont spend your valuable time on doing digital stalking where you can spend time wisely & fruitfully ( Sorry for being so philosophical !!).

Put your real look instead of your virtual “Face”book.

Feel and live every moment in real world !!